How to Ace Boarding School Admissions: Tips to Stand Out and Get Accepted

Applying to boarding school can feel a little like auditioning for a Broadway show while juggling flaming torches. The competition is real, the stakes are high, and everyone seems to be juggling something impressive. But here’s the truth: admissions teams aren’t just scanning for perfect grades and a laundry list of extracurriculars. They’re looking for the full picture—personality, curiosity, drive, and yes, a bit of polish.

The good news? You don’t need a stage crew or smoke machine to stand out. What you do need is a smart game plan, a little insight into what schools are really looking for, and a way to tell your story that feels real and remarkable. So if you’re staring down the boarding school process and wondering where to start, take a deep breath. We’ve got your back with tips that are practical, proven, and just a little bit playful.

Tip #1: Boarding School Research: How to Know Schools and Start Early

Know the Admissions Timeline

Every boarding school marches to the beat of its own admissions drum. Some start accepting applications as early as August, while others don’t close until January or even February. Miss a deadline, and your carefully crafted application could go straight to the land of “maybe next year.”

Take Phillips Exeter Academy, for example. Their deadline for application materials typically falls on January 15. But don’t wait until the New Year to start. You’ll need time to complete the SAO, schedule your interview (by December 15), and submit all supporting documents. Meanwhile, the Webb Schools in California have a December 15 deadline and encourage early interviews for priority scheduling.

This is why building a spreadsheet or a big whiteboard calendar is your new best friend. Include test dates like the SSAT (which often has December and January sittings), interview deadlines, and each school’s decision notification date. Then tape that calendar to your fridge. Or your bathroom mirror. Or your dog. Whatever works.

Match Your Child’s Goals with the School’s Mission

Every boarding school has a personality. Some are tech nerds. Some are theater kids. Some are future diplomats. So before you apply, ask: What kind of place will help my child grow?

If your kid dreams in algorithms and builds robots for fun, Choate Rosemary Hall has a robust Signature Program in Science Research. For aspiring novelists and performers, Walnut Hill School for the Arts is basically Hogwarts for artists. And if your child thrives on challenge, responsibility, and integrity, the Lawrenceville School emphasizes the Harkness method and values student-led discussion across all subjects.

This part of the process is about more than prestige. It’s about finding a place where your child will be seen, supported, and stretched in the right ways. Kind of like a perfectly tailored blazer, but for academics and life goals.

Attend Virtual Events, Open Houses, and Campus Visits

Zoom might not let you smell the fresh-cut grass or hear the chapel bells, but it can still give you a feel for a school’s culture. Virtual info sessions, webinars, and student panels are great places to start. These events show admissions officers that you’re not just clicking “apply all” like you’re ordering takeout.

Middlesex School, for example, hosts Fall Visit Days and family webinars where prospective students can chat with teachers and current students. St. Paul’s School offers virtual tours and admissions Q&As, and Cate School has both in-person and online open houses where you can even sit in on classes. And if you can get there in person? Do it. Nothing beats wandering through campus, talking to real students, and picturing your child actually living there. Just remember to take notes, wear comfy shoes, and maybe pack an umbrella. Boarding school weather has a personality, too.

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Tip #2: Crafting a Strong Boarding School Application: Presenting Your Best Self

Craft a Compelling Student Statement

Think of the student statement as the admissions committee’s first real conversation with your child, minus the awkward handshake. This is not the time to sound like an overpolished brochure. It’s a chance to be real, reflective, and relatable.

If your child helped tutor a younger sibling and discovered a love for teaching, that’s a story. If they overcame their fear of public speaking to lead a club at school, that’s a story. The essay doesn’t need to be earth-shattering. It just needs to show depth and voice. For example, a student applying to The Putney School, which values self-directed learning, might write about how they built a compost system at home and discovered a passion for sustainability. That’s a win.

Encourage your child to avoid trying to guess what the admissions team wants to hear. Instead, help them find the story that’s uniquely theirs—and tell it honestly.

Write an Honest and Supportive Parent Statement

Parents, grab a cup of coffee. It’s your turn. The parent statement is where you get to share your perspective, not to rewrite your child’s resumé, but to offer insight into who they are at home, when no one’s grading them.

What do they get excited about? How do they respond to setbacks? What values do they live by without even realizing it?

Say your daughter is applying to Emma Willard School, known for its emphasis on leadership and intellectual curiosity. A great parent statement might describe the time she organized a neighborhood book exchange or stepped up to help a struggling classmate. Be real, be specific, and most importantly, don’t make it sound like you’re angling for a Pulitzer. Humility, warmth, and clarity go a long way.

Highlight Meaningful Extracurriculars in the Resume/Activity Sheet

Not every club or activity needs to come with a trophy. In fact, some of the most compelling parts of an application come from consistent, quiet dedication. Admissions officers are looking for passion and follow-through. A student who has edited the school newspaper for three years, started a podcast on environmental justice, or coached a youth soccer team shows initiative and commitment. For example, Deerfield Academy values student leadership and community-mindedness, so that kind of involvement matters.

This is not the place to list every one-off weekend volunteer gig. Instead, spotlight the things your child does regularly, cares about deeply, and has grown through. Show the “why,” not just the “what.”

Nail the Interview with Confidence

Nailing the interview is all about helping your child show up as their genuine self. Practice with mock interviews to shake off the nerves, but skip the rehearsed monologues—natural beats perfect every time. Encourage them to share stories that reflect their character, not just achievements, and don’t be afraid of a little humor or vulnerability. Most importantly, remind them to ask thoughtful questions that show real interest in the school’s community, like what campus life is like on the weekends. It’s a conversation, not a performance.

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Tip #3: Boarding School Test Prep: Starting Early for the SSAT and ISEE

Understand What Each School Requires (SSAT, ISEE, etc.)

Before you buy a stack of flashcards and commit to a life of Saturday test drills, pump the brakes. Not every school needs the same test, and some don’t require one at all. While Phillips Andover expects strong SSAT scores, Buxton School is completely test-optional. That’s a pretty big difference, and it pays to know which side your target schools are on.

Visit each school’s admissions page and look for the section titled “Standardized Testing Requirements” or “Application Components.” If you see something vague like “test-optional but encouraged,” that’s code for “we’ll still peek at it if you send it.” Don’t guess. Don’t assume. And definitely don’t sign up for three different exams unless absolutely necessary. Your wallet and your child will thank you.

Create a Test Prep Plan with Room for Improvement

No one aces the SSAT or ISEE in their sleep. Start with a diagnostic test to see where your child stands. Then build a schedule that includes weekly study time, targeted practice, and timed mock exams. Bonus points if you bribe them with snacks.

This isn’t about overloading their already busy schedule with flashcards taped to the ceiling. It’s about giving them a realistic timeline to improve without panic. Think of it like training for a marathon, not sprinting toward a spelling bee trophy.

Consider Professional Tutoring if Needed

If your test prep sessions are starting to feel like emotional hostage situations, it might be time to call in a professional. A good tutor is part coach, part therapist, and part magician. They’ll not only teach test strategies and fill in content gaps, but also help your child walk into test day feeling cool, calm, and collected.

For students aiming at competitive schools like The Thacher School or St. Mark’s School, where strong test scores can really help, working with a tutor can make a noticeable difference. And who knows, with the right person, your child might even look forward to prep sessions. Stranger things have happened.

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Tip #4: Getting Strong Boarding School Teacher Recommendations That Stand Out

Choose Teachers Who Know Your Child Well

When it comes to recommendation letters, the goal is quality over flash. That popular AP History teacher who barely knows your kid’s name? Probably not your best bet. Instead, choose someone who’s seen your child in action—struggling through challenges, bouncing back, leading group projects, or simply showing up with a great attitude every day.

If your child lit up every class discussion in English or stayed after school to get extra help in math, those are the teachers you want. They’ll write letters that feel authentic and specific, which is exactly what schools like Milton Academy or Hotchkiss are looking for. A glowing letter from a teacher who truly “gets” your kid is worth more than one from someone with an impressive title and zero insight.

Give Recommenders Plenty of Lead Time

Teachers have lives too. They’re juggling lesson plans, grading, and maybe even coaching the JV swim team. The last thing they need is a panicked email asking for a rec letter with a 48-hour deadline. Do your part and give them a generous heads-up—ideally, a month or more.

Attach a list of schools and deadlines, and politely check in as those dates approach. A handwritten thank-you note or a warm slice of banana bread doesn’t hurt either. In the world of recommendation letters, gratitude goes a long way.

Provide Context to Help Them Write Specific Letters

Make it easy for teachers to write something memorable. A short bullet list with highlights—projects they excelled in, leadership roles, quirky interests—is helpful. You’re not scripting the letter for them. You’re just handing over the Spark Notes.

Did your child organize a school-wide recycling program or lead thoughtful discussions during that unit on To Kill a Mockingbird? Mention it. This context helps the teacher dig into specifics and paint a more vivid picture. And whatever you do, don’t try to ghostwrite the letter. Admissions officers can smell a parent-penned résumé from a mile away. And it’s not a good look.

Tip #5: Demonstrating Interest in Boarding Schools: Engagement and Follow-Up Tips

Send Thank-You Emails After Interviews

It’s old-school, but it works. A short, heartfelt note shows appreciation and reinforces interest. Keep it short, keep it sweet, and hit send within 24 hours.

Stay Engaged with the Admissions Office

Whether it’s sending in updates or asking thoughtful questions, staying on the radar can help. Don’t go overboard, but don’t ghost them either.

Be Polite, Curious, and Persistent

Politeness opens doors. So does curiosity. Be the kind of applicant who asks smart questions and follows instructions. And if you don’t get in right away? Keep going. Persistence pays off.

Tip #6: Leveraging Boarding School Admissions Consultants for Application Success

Boarding schools are notorious for their competitive admissions. That’s why we always strive to help students and their families the best way we can. Here at Cardinal Education, we offer help by giving you the necessary skills to succeed in your academic journey. With academic coaching and test prep, we also have dedicated SSAT Practice Tests and ISEE Practice Tests, as well as SSAT Prep materials and ISEE prep materials. We ensure students are in their best shape to tackle any tasks! Contact us today and let our experts guide you!

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