What if my child wants to go somewhere I don’t think is a good fit?

Cue the deep breath. It’s totally normal for parents and kids to see things differently. Before declaring “absolutely not,” ask your child why that school appeals to them. There may be something important they’re picking up on. Then, calmly share your concerns. Maybe it’s the commute, the curriculum, or the vibe. The goal isn’t to win, it’s to understand each other. If you’re still not aligned, compromise with a wider application list that includes both your picks and theirs. Sometimes the “no way” school turns into a learning moment—or better yet, a backup. Keep the conversation open, honest, and without eye rolls on either side.