What are healthy ways to talk about college admissions as a family?

First, take a deep breath and hide the Ivy League brochures—at least for now. Keep the conversation open, supportive, and curiosity-driven. Ask questions like “What kind of environment do you see yourself thriving in?” instead of “What’s your backup if you don’t get in?” Set aside regular, low-stress times to check in, like during a drive or over pizza. Avoid turning every dinner into an admissions debrief. Celebrate small wins along the way, and remind your teen that their worth is not measured by acceptance letters. Keep things light, listen more than you lecture, and never underestimate the power of ice cream.