How To Write About Your Challenges In Your College Application Essays

No great story ever starts with “Everything was perfect and then… it stayed that way.” Your life, just like every good college essay, needs a little friction. Admissions officers want to know what challenges you’ve faced and how you handled them. But before you start scaling emotional Everest, take a breath. Your challenge doesn’t need to be a headline-worthy crisis. It just needs to be real, personal, and meaningful to you. Whether you struggled with calculus or confidence, your story matters. And the way you tell it can make all the difference. We asked our admissions experts for their best tips on how to write about your challenges. Here’s what they had to say.

What Counts as a Challenge in a College Essay?

Here’s the good news: you don’t need to have survived a shark attack or moved continents at age seven to write about a challenge. Challenges come in all shapes and sizes. Maybe you bombed your first debate and had to rebuild your confidence. Maybe your summer job taught you how to deal with difficult customers. Or maybe juggling school, sports, and being the oldest sibling in a busy household stretched your limits. If it made you uncomfortable, pushed you to grow, or taught you something new about yourself, it counts.

The key is not how dramatic the challenge is. It’s how you write about it. Colleges want to see your problem-solving skills, resilience, emotional insight, and growth. They’re not looking for a soap opera. They’re looking for self-awareness.

Should I Mention Learning Differences or Learning Disabilities In My College Essay?

Hard no. Unless a college specifically asks about learning differences in a supplemental question, your main essay is not the place. Why? Because the essay is your chance to showcase your strengths, not your support systems. When students write about learning differences, the essay often shifts from “Here’s how I grew” to “Here’s what’s wrong with me and how I manage it.” That’s not the message you want to send. Colleges already see your academic record and any accommodations you’ve used. Your essay should show who you are beyond that. Focus on your passions, your grit, your creativity, anything that spotlights you as more than your diagnosis. Remember, you’re the main character, not the footnote.

How to Choose the Right Challenge to Write About

When deciding which challenge to write about, keep your eye on transformation, not tragedy. A good story doesn’t have to start with something dramatic. Some of the best essays are built on small, powerful moments that sparked big personal growth. Here’s what to look for:

• A shift in mindset – Maybe you used to see the world one way, and then something happened that changed your perspective.
• A lesson learned the hard way – Did you fail, fumble, or fall short, and come out wiser because of it?
• A moment you stepped up – Think of a time you took initiative, even when it wasn’t expected of you.
• Emotional growth – Did the experience help you better understand yourself or others?
• A clear before-and-after – Your essay should show you in motion, not stuck in the problem.

Avoid picking something that just piles on pain. Tragedy might make a reader feel bad for you, but transformation makes them root for you. Choose a challenge that shows who you’ve become.

How To Structure Your College Admissions Essays Around Your Challenges

You’ve picked your challenge. Now what? Time to shape it into a story that flows, connects, and most importantly, shows growth. A strong essay has structure, focus, and a clear message. Below, we break it down into three key moves that will help you go from “just another struggle” to a memorable, meaningful personal narrative.

Crafting Your Story Arc: The Past-Present-Future Essay Structure

If your essay were a movie, this would be your three-act structure. It’s a classic for a reason—it gives your story a clear arc that admissions officers can follow without needing popcorn.

1. Start with the past: What happened? Set the scene. Was it a moment, a stretch of time, or a situation that challenged you? This is where we meet the “you before the growth.”
2. Then move to the present: How did you handle it? What steps did you take? What changed—both around you and inside you? This is your turning point, the action that shows your strength, grit, or even your awkward trial-and-error phase.
3. Finally, shift to the future: What did you learn? How did the experience shape your values, outlook, or decisions? What are you carrying forward into college and beyond?

This structure helps keep your essay balanced between storytelling and self-reflection. And that balance is exactly what colleges want to see: a thoughtful student who’s growing, learning, and ready for what’s next.

Highlighting Growth, Not Just Hardship: Writing a Compelling Essay

We get it. When something was hard, it’s easy to spend most of your essay unpacking just how hard it was. But here’s the truth: this isn’t your autobiography, it’s a college application. The challenge is just the setup. The spotlight should be on you and how you responded.

Instead of focusing too much on the problem, shift your energy toward what came next. What did you do to move forward? How did you cope, adapt, or grow? What strengths did you find in yourself that you didn’t know were there?

The struggle is the setting. Your response, that’s the story. That’s what colleges want to see: resilience, insight, and the kind of personal growth that sticks with you long after the tough moment has passed.

Showcasing Growth and Vision: Ending Your College Essay with Purpose

Your final paragraph should leave the reader feeling like you’re heading somewhere. Even if your challenge isn’t fully behind you, show how it’s shaped where you’re going. Did it push you toward a certain major? Change how you see the world? Teach you something real about empathy, leadership, or the power of asking for help?

Whatever your takeaway, make sure your ending looks ahead. This is your chance to show that you’re not just surviving but growing. Colleges want students who can face adversity and come out stronger. Wrap things up with a clear sense of direction, and give them a reason to believe in what comes next.

Common Mistakes When Writing About Your Challeneges in Your Essay

Writing about challenges can be tricky. Here are a few common mistakes to avoid, with quick examples to keep things clear:

• Focusing too much on the problem: Spending most of your essay on the challenge itself, like describing every awkward moment of switching schools, leaves no room for your growth. Focus on how you adapted and what you learned.
• Going too heavy: Topics like grief or mental health are real, but if there’s no sense of resolution or reflection, it can feel unfinished. Show how you’re moving forward, even if the challenge isn’t fully resolved.
• Being vague: Saying “I struggled, then got better” won’t cut it. Instead of “I became more confident,” try “Joining debate taught me to speak up, even when I was nervous.”
• Sounding like a victim: Even if something wasn’t your fault, don’t stay in blame mode. Focus on how you took action or found strength, like supporting teammates even when benched.
• Skipping the ending: Wrap it up with a forward-looking takeaway. If the essay ends with “and that’s what happened,” readers are left guessing what it meant to you.

How Cardinal Education Can Help You Craft a Compelling Essay

At Cardinal Education, we know how tricky it can be to write about personal challenges, especially when the pressure’s on to impress. That’s why we offer academic coaching to help you uncover the story only you can tell, brainstorming support to find the right challenge and angle, and expert editing with a strategic eye to make sure your essay highlights your strengths. From first idea to final polish, we help you turn life’s tough moments into powerful personal statements.

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